Why are trans people so reticent to acknowledge
That they may or may not have
Body dysmorphic disorder
In combination with, and/or separate from
Their gender dysphoria?
Almost all of the gray areas– including
Why some trans people have
Lots and lots and lots of surgeries– and why
Some trans folk have zero surgeries.
It also explains nonbinary people who
Don’t have gender dysphoria.
I’ve struggled with gender dysphoria
But the thing about it, is
In my experience, from my perspective–
Is about gender and gendered interactions
Not really about your body, at all, honestly.
I’ve mostly come to term with this lately
As I have all male colleagues, and
All male supervisors and
Everyone in my company is dudely, so much so–
Nobody even asks what you had for lunch.
It’s fucking paradise– I had no idea
There was a world like this, that I could find
‘Lo and behold, it was hiding in plain sight
The secret world of masculinity mostly men get to experience.
For me, personally, this has been both
Better for my gender dysphoria than
Any medical intervention has been so far, and also
Has had a steep learning curve, where I’ve definitely
Scuffed my shins a bit being dragged around.
TLDR: Gender is how other people treat you.
I assume that a lot of people
Lump genitals, tits, ass, sexy parts ect.
In with gender dysphoria, because they see these
Body parts as gendered, and causing them dysphoria–
Which is true, to an extent, however
There isn’t really a limit to that thinking, unfortunately…
You can just kind of keep on going and going and going
You can be like
“Men have x parts, women have y parts–
I have the wrong kind of parts and
That my friends– is called gender dysphoria”
Like…. maybe? IMO Nope. Sorry.
I think BDD affects a lot more people
In a lot more ways than most people realize.
I’m not saying trans people should be somehow
Free of BDD before they attempt transitioning– but I do think
It’s more than a bit risky, to tell someone
Who hates every inch of their skin
That they can change anything they don’t like
That surgery can fix everything– It can’t, and it doesn’t
Neither does therapy, but regardless–
You don’t want to be caught by surprise
When the vanity high goes away.