Bad Feminist
I had a run in
A while back
With a really, really
Bad feminist.
Not like, the
Inspiring kind
The rebel kind
The Roxanne Gay, kind–
The faux kind.
The phony kind
The “I’m feminist for women who are exactly like me and no one else” kind
It really bummed me out
This shit happens, a lot
I’m sure you know
Unless you’re really truly
That dense
I often think
About what things were like
Pre-puberty
Pre-gender
Pre-sex
And I wonder
How do we get back there?
Back to when people
Were human
Not gendered so heavily
Not so different, each of us
Our bodies, Our art is
Basically the same
The only thing that changes
Is the frame
Why wouldn’t anyone
Who’s been conscious
For the past century
Think feminism was
Unnecessary
Bad for men
Or somehow
Evil, methodical, mean?
Something to be afraid of
Something to
Avoid association with
What is it about feminism
That makes you so uncomfortable
?
Or is it just
When you talk about feminism
To me
Big, scary, independent
Dyke lady
Bent for blood
Embittered by a rejection letter
I never received
I am so confused
Why straight women are
So scared of me
I like whole-human women
Not some bullshit
Knock-off
Fragile
Skim-girl
I don’t hit on straight-laces types
I like having fun,
Staying up, doing drugs
Fucking all night and
Well into the morning
Oh, and she’s gotta be
Really, really gay for me
Feminism is not some
Ponzu scheme
I made up to make you feel
Comfortable
I’m not hitting on you
By telling you that you are
Autonomous and powerful
In your own right
Honestly
I’m disturbed
By how little kindness it takes
For you to feel pressured
To do something you don’t want
With someone you don’t like
Why would I be interested
In some standoffish
Frigid bitch
Who’s gonna be a pillow queen
And make me feel nowhere near alright
She’ll stop treating me like a person
And make me wonder
Why feminism
Is so hard for women
To accept ?
Maybe it’s a symptom
Of a bigger problem
With ourselves
Maybe some women
Think feminism is ridiculous
Because they hate themselves
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On an unrelated note
I was researching for my next podcast episode about “squirting” and I found out that
Something like
50% of women say they can’t climax?!
Where’d they get that number
But like
Does anyone else
Want to jump off a bridge
At a statistic like that?
What kind of world is this
Half of women don’t even masturbate
I wanna die, y’all.
Jk
I spent the next thirty minutes
Googling how to be a sex therapist
My only real purpose in life
Is making people come
I’m sick of pretending otherwise