BDD vs GID/Grab-Bag/It’s Not Personal–It’s Just Shitty/Product
Body Dysmorphic Disorder
Is a real fucking thing, folks.
So is gender dysphoria, but unfortunately
The symptoms of these two conditions
Are often so intertwined
It takes time, experience, and
A lot of self reflection
To be able to know how much
Of either, you’re actually dealing with.
Nobody is saying that trans folks don’t have
Gender dysphoria– however
It is a convenient grab bag disease
To label just about anything–
Kinda like PCOS for fat hairy women.
Doesn’t matter if you also happen to have
Many other serious diseases and complications
The doctors, therapists, friends and family
Will all disregard what you’re experiencing
As the simpler explanation, often just due
To the fact that they haven’t experienced anything
As complex or nuanced as what you’re going through–
It’s not personal– it’s just shitty.
Body Dysmorphic Disorder is a real fucking thing, folks.
Waaaaay more common than GID, for sure.
I worry that perhaps some folks
With advanced stages of BDD
Might find solace and comfort in the trans community, and
Be misdiagnosed, and overtreated.
Two things can be true at once, but
It would take a tremendous amount
Of mental strength, for a trans person
To not have a bit of both, I think
Not everyone is transgender
Not a lot of people know what it’s like
To transition socially or medically
To another perceived gender
You have to be honest with yourself
Keep track of the way you feel
And understand that some things are
Gendered– and some things
Are just human flesh
That you would have had.
Nobody chooses what they look like
We are all born naked–
And the rest is consumer culture
Try to make sure you aren’t
Valuing yourself like a fucking product.
Maybe you need to look a certain way
Because it will help you “pass”, it will make you feel
More aligned with who you are, or maybe
That might never happen, considering
How your self-perception
Might be negatively biased.
If you can’t look at yourself without wincing,
That isn’t necessarily because you’re trans, darling.