Gendered Socialization Is Extremely Real, I Wish Trans People With Different Upbringings Would Stop Saying It Isn’t.
As a kid I was spanked when I
Refused to wear a dress for church
Or for photos
I would sabotage each photo I was in
With a funny pose or face
As a kid I once asked my dad
For math homework help
He laughed, rolled his eyes
And instead explained to me
That “girls can’t do math”
And signed me up for a tutor so he didn’t have to
Waste his time.
As a kid my weight was
Cause for concern from everyone
Especially my dad who wouldn’t even
Look piggy in the eye, he
Never, ever hugged me
He never said he loved me and I was
Always hidden from sight.
We never posted family photos
In our Christmas card.
I wasn’t allowed to hangout
With male friends after a certain age
I wasn’t allowed
To be anything
Besides a daughter, whatever that meant
For these reasons
And the countless others I experienced
I am a firm believer in gendered socialization
I think it’s rude, disrespectful and
To say it doesn’t exist.
Trans people that disagree with me
Can suck my angry ghost dick.
Gendered socialization is real as fuck and
I have the emotional scars to prove it.