Mannerisms, Body Language, Instincts, Urges and Reflexes— Gender Is How You Act
The many parts of gender that
HRT and surgery have
Absolutely no impact on
Even fucking writing style is gendered
I once typed with a trans woman who
Said I had a big personality with my words—
Shit still makes me dysphoric if I think about it—
For me, personally
How people treat me, their body language,
Their tone, the subject matter, the
Whole vibe of the conversation
That is what I transitioned for.
I had an “bullish attitude problem”
For years and now I’m a
Weak, soft bastard.
Gender and social constructs are
Absolutely very real and
That is why I transitioned.
Not anything to do with my body
Or my appearance.
The only thing that’s helped me
Is talking to new people
Who use completely different clues
Some might call them “clueless”
About my past—
For me, it’s just
Appreciation for the new man
I finally get to be at last.
Gender is more about
How you act
Than it is how you look,
And everybody on the internet
Fucking hates that fact.
Did top surgery help?
Oh hell yeah, absolutely
But more than anything
Changing my name, and
Changing my social circle
Was pure magic.