Nobody Should Need To Come Out As Non-binary. Sex Isn’t Binary.
Coming out as trans is one thing—
You are transitioning your social presentation
Your name, your appearance, your pronouns your anything—
If you are changing how you present to the world
Without question you are transitioning
From where you were to where you are headed—
Wherever that ends up. Sometimes it’s
The same place you started.
For me— absolutely nothing about being non-binary
Required(requires?) me to come out.
Coming out was something I did
To signal allyship, something I did
To provoke discussion—
Never something that I needed
Everyone is entitled to their pronouns
Their perspective— but
If sex and gender aren’t binary—
Then excuse me, but who is ?!
The binary trans people who exist because of
Non-binary principals in action ?
The cisgender people who may or may not
Be Allies? The ones who might be
Non-binary in disguise ? What about
Intersex folks who were born the way
They identify? Are they still trans?
Shit makes no sense.
I’m sick of pretending it does ! It doesn’t.
Cisgender people can be non-binary, something
Some people say is trans identity, the terms
Are not mutually exclusive
People do not seem to understand this.
In the future
This will all be seen as a trend—
Not because sex is immutable— but rather the opposite—
No one will need to come out as non-binary
In a world where everyone knows and understands
That sex is not binary.
It’s like coming out as a human—
How many more poems do I have to write about the same goddamn thing I swear to god.