Putting Two and Two Twogether
It’s easy for most people to understand why a woman
Might want to live as a man.
I even saw some sort of international clickbait-ish video
About an egyptian woman
Who dressed and lived as a man
To provide for herself and her family
It’s not exactly rocket science
Putting two and two together–
One gender has rights and abilities in society
And the other doesn’t. So, when this woman needed that power–
She took it however she could.
Both genders have privileges and powers, but
There isn’t often crossover. You have to crossover–
To get the crossover.
When I came out as transgender
Most of the people in my life said
“Okay makes sense”
Except for a handful of gay men
Who, honestly, in retrospect
Seem like they hate being men
I can’t imagine hating all this power, all this privilege
I can’t imagine feeling burdened by the responsibility
I am finally free to be who I’ve always been
Large, in charge, and in-demand
If that seems like a burden to you, perhaps
You’re going through a tough time, or perhaps
You don’t actually enjoy being a man.
Being a woman is so specific and comes with
So many extra pretty little responsibilities, like
The emotional well-being of everyone around you
–I quickly found out I wasn’t a good fit for that sort of lifestyle
No one ever asked me to babysit, even as a kid
They could tell that I wasn’t cut out for that shit.
Now, as a man, I have to be independent
On a level I have not previously been demanded
And I find it liberating, exciting, and downright
Exhilarating.
I don’t know you, or your brain, or whatever you like
However you feel, but I do know this–
If you don’t like being a man
You can always change your mind
You can always be a woman, you will pass with time.
No surgery or medication can help you the way
Living socially with the right expectations has helped me, at least
I can only speak for myself.
Again, I already wrote this poem, but–
If you feel oppressed by your gender–
That is something you can change.