Somebody You Haven’t Met Yet
Non-binary Means Different Things To Different People.
Not sure how many poems I have to write about this
Before I feel like I said it– I guess I will just keep trying–
Non-binary means different things to different people.
It doesn’t mean surgery. It doesn’t mean hormones.
Some people do those things, and let me tell you–
The overwhelming majority of these detransitioner stories
Are from people who now identify as non-binary
At what point do we, as a community
Have to draw some lines in the sand
About who gets surgery and hormones and who doesn’t
Also at what point do we,
As a “community”
Acknowledge that some trans surgeries
And some trans medications
Are dangerous, and irreversible
Without being called a “transphobe”?
How am I a transphobe…? For encouraging caution
Safety, oversight with these issues?
If you want trans people to exist
Safely and without a hitch
You’re gonna have to care enough
To make laws and regulations
About our care and practices.
One size does not fit all, but I think
It’s about time we look at the available options
And include the bad statistics
When new patients come to talk to us.
Also I think that “gender therapists”
Should really emphasize
The irreversible permanence of transgender interventions
You aren’t signing up for a beard and a jaw line
You’re signing up for a new life, with new hormones–
As somebody you haven’t met yet.