The “Burden” Of Male Privilege/Perspective/Proud Boys
Trigger warning it’s another f word poem.
In quotations because
Personally— I am not burdened—
I am running at full speed faster than
I ever have.
If gay men were treated the same way as
Lesbians there would be a much more dominant, thriving economy
Of cat cafes and farmers markets with softball meetups.
It’s hard to pretend as if
Some gay men
Aren’t fucking misogynist.
It’s hard to pretend as if
Some gay men
Aren’t fucking transphobic.
It’s hard to pretend as if
Some gay men
Aren’t fucking clueless —
It’s hard to hear the TERF arguments as if
Transphobes are somehow all
Uniformly bonded by their feminism… 😑
It’s hard to pretend as if
Our society does anything
But encourage narcissism
Regardless of identity
As a coping mechanism for survival and yet
It’s especially hard for me to notice
That the main reason
Gay men experience so much discrimination
In their youth
Is because they are being prepared for the burden
Of male privilege
A burden some of them resent
A burden some of them see
Women not having
And wish they were them
This idea of the
Glamorous housewife
Who does nothing
But get dick and exercise
It never seems to matter that this idea
Is a fantasy that has no
Reality until they might try and decide
To be a woman and yet
The main reason
Nobody cares if you’re a dyke
Is because it doesn’t fucking matter if you are or are not
Nobody sees a woman’s life
A woman’s body
A woman’s perspective
As anything more than a baby making cum dump
The very thing so many in the community
Try and organize because
They wish they had cum dumped in them
They wish they were housewives with no careers
They wish they didn’t have male privilege
The privilege so many women fight for
The right to be your own person
With your own career
Your own life
Your own dominion
Nobody cares whether or not
A woman has anything other than
A man, the very thing
Gay men hold so dear.
It’s bizarre to me, as a
Straight man with years of being a lesbian
Under his belt
Why any gay man on earth
Would ever be so stupid and sexist
As to fetishize not working, being a
House slave and being
Something that rejects every part
Of the privilege.
Sometimes it feels that
The definition of the queer community
Is actually just a group of behaviors
I personally find very troubling.
I can’t understand it and I never will, but who am I
Just some straight man
With a dormant uterus
Tryna make sense of the world
As he fits in it, and as he doesn’t.
I hear all the time about
Gay men being discriminated against
Growing up, but after that—
It’s just loneliness, parties, and giving fucks
All the privileges wasted on those who
Don’t use them, waiting around
Not being women but also too transphobic
To admit that every single one of their desires
Would be helped by transition. Instead they
Fuck money, pictures, status, hookups
Being money, attracted to money
Success attracted to status and vice versa
A beautiful body translating to status and success despite
All the individual issues that might coexist.
None of it is anything
Anyone would ever want to participate in and yet
Sure
I’m supposed to be fine with it—
Nay—
Not fine—
Proud of it.
Let’s keep insisting somehow that
Rich white gay men
Are a “minority”
At any point past junior high.
To me that is the only representation
Any of us get
At any time.
Again, quotations around “burden”
Because it is not mine
Quotations around “minority” because
That demographic is somehow always first in line.
There are queers
There is being queer
And then there is being
A rich white successful half closeted fag
Who might as well be a Nazi with a pride flag.
I guess being a rich white man who is only friends
With other rich white men who only cares about
Money, status, and appearance
Doesn’t make you a bad person— it just makes you
A proud boy of a certain tribe that
No one is allowed to question.