“The Right Kind Of Weight”/Fat Is A Disqualification
I’m starting to think that
Plenty of dudes in the sea
Enjoy being beaten, enjoy being
Disrespected, enjoy being
Mean.
It’s obvious to me that
Many trans men
See fat as feminine
Preach about the way
They have saved themselves from
That sin, been spared
From that image
How it “helps their dysphoria
To be thinner, but they also
Need to gain the right kind of weight
To look more masculine”
And if you dare say anything
About how fucking stupid and sexist and
Sizeist this idea is
Well—
Surprise surprise folks
That’s not the kind of narrative you’re supposed to spread
The only approved topics are things
That tell you what to reach for, not things
You already have !!
What kind of self-loathing paradox
Would you be stuck in
If you couldn’t somehow blame
Dysphoria on everything
Lmfao I can’t even
Y’all—
Fat has no gender
Gaining or losing weight
Should have zero impact
On your gender dysphoria
But just so you know
Being obsessed with weight
And “health”
However you define that
You might be surprised to find
That your idea of a healthy body
Is one that looks hot to you
Which, honestly
May never come true, considering
How gender dysphoria can affect you.
What am I suggesting?
I’m suggesting that
The trans community has an honest and open conversation
About the inherent fat phobia in our culture and our meetings
And how many, many of us
Started out with eating disorders
Before we ever knew we were trans.
Why you think that
HRT is some sort of magic cure all
That prevents you from being
A self-loathing prick, is
Fucking beyond me.
First thing I’m doing
When I’m strong enough
Is a breakdown of how there is more
Fatphobia and fatphobic gatekeeping
In the LGBTQAI community
Than there ever has been fucking
Biphobia, transphobia or hatred of lesbians.
It doesn’t matter
Which part of the alphabet soup
You’re talking about—
Fat is a disqualification