Trans-ogynyies/Make Do
Misogynist is, for some reason
The only thing anyone is allowed to be, nowadays.
Throughout my transition I have been
Forced to come to terms with my
Misandry and boy I tell you what–
It’s been pretty mind-blowing, and also
Dare I say… lonely?
Not because I’m not the only one who has this realization–
But rather that
I can’t find a single trans person
Who is willing to admit
To anything other than acknowledging misogyny.
I need to be specific–
The approved ogynies are
Trans women now experience misogyny, and
Trans men now admit to struggling with
Cultural misogyny, and their role in it.
If you have a change of perspective on men–
Well, the narrative tells us you’re gay now…!
Congratulations?
It seems that my dialogue, my perspective,
The one that I lived, doesn’t fit this narrative.
I also have yet
To have an open and honest conversation
With a trans woman about their own
Personal realizations
About their own misogynist preconceptions
The only person I’ve seen in “the narrative”
That talks about this
Is Caitlyn Jenner
Who the woke left has basically banned
From all spaces.
That is very similar, if not the same as–
Saying you aren’t in support of that narrative.
The only supported trans-ogyny is misogyny
The kind that women experience
And if you dare say that trans women aren’t women well–
You’re a fucking misogynist transphobe idiot
The only real alternatives to this dialogue I’ve found are
Self-loathing mansplaining garbage sources like
Rose of Dawn and The Mars Show.
I don’t understand why I feel so
Naked, so brave, so vulnerable
When I speak about my internalized misandry
I want to hear a new dialogue, a more
Believable, authentic to my experience dialogue
One where trans women
Are respected enough as women
To admit that they might have been men
For a hot second.
I am
Completely disinterested
In the misogyny that trans women now experience–
It is identical to the misogyny all women have been
Speaking, whispering, writing, poeming, filming, sculpting
Painting, performing, singing
Screaming about, for centuries
I am more interested in their perspective on misogyny, tbh
What I am extremely interested in
What I am in draught of, to be honest,
Is a conversation about the various
Misogynist things trans women have realized
About themselves, and about their own journey
Through heaven and hell.
What is so taboo
About a trans woman admitting that
They used to have to make do,
As a dude, the way that
I have to.