Who The Hell Does?
I will say
When detransitioners talk about
“Never felt like they succeeded”
“Never felt like a man, a woman—“
What have you—
I wonder to myself
“Who the hell does?”
Literally No one
Feels their gender
It’s something you express
All the time, something other people
Assess about you, something
Perceived, something borrowed,
If a trans woman
And never feels like a woman,
What does it mean for her?
IMO nothing at all.
As a trans man
I never felt like a woman either! Lmfao
I guess my problem here is
I understand too well, what they’re saying
No one feels the gender they express.
Now that I’ve had top surgery
I feel the exact same
Just lighter up top, much less anxious
And much less overwhelmed and hopeless
About how I will be perceived when I leave the house.
I don’t feel like “a man” I don’t know what that even fucking means
None of my guy friends “feel” their masculinity
It’s like porn— you know it
When you see it
I knew when I was being misgendered, misunderstood
But now that I’m not?
I don’t feel much at all. Just content.
Perhaps you detransitioned because
Sex is immutable, or perhaps
The trauma of being trans was too much
No matter how much you did you still felt like
You’re stuck on the wrong side
For me, personally
That’s why non-binary
Mean so much
It’s important to talk about how
None of us feel one way or the other
Gender isn’t a feeling—
It’s an expression. A communication
Not being understood is
Unfortunately, part of the human condition.
Sex characteristics develop in the womb
After our brains do.